The Comfort of Impending Motherhood
THE SECOND TRIMESTER
Having just Googled ‘How many weeks Second Trimester’, it’s clear I’m no expert in the pregnancy department.
Actually coming to think about it, I only know I’m in my Third Trimester because my Baby Centre App congratulated me with a pop up message. This message also wanted to inform me that my baby was now the size of a white cabbage. Not a red cabbage - that was a few weeks prior.
The Second Trimester to me was a time to build one wall, and knock a few others down. It was my time to prepare mentally rather than physically, and a time to start organising my village to help raise this unborn child.
The wall I chose to build was for protection. Protection against the barrage of well-meant, yet heavily opinionated advice, as well as protection against the horror birth stories that ensued. Why oh why do women who have had a negative experience with birth, feel that the appropriate audience to tell their eye watering stories to are expecting mothers? “Oh wow, you’re pregnant! Congratulations. I had a 27 hour labour, the baby nearly strangled itself with the umbilical cord, I had a huge bleed and had a third degree tear”. Excellent. Please, do go on.
I learned to deflect negativity like a boss. Politely asking women to tell me their stories after I have given birth. I actually listened to the advice being dished up to me, and then I mentally set fire to the information that I didn’t want to take on board. I also learnt not toGoogle like a mad woman. Don’t do it! Doctor Google’s evil OB cousin provides majority of the information you will uncover. Ask your mum instead. She knows.
The walls I chose to knock down were fear and anxiety, therefore letting in positivity. In my last article I said that three major events turned my perception on babies, birth and rearing a child. The first two were a few softly spoken words from my partner, and then my twenty-week scan (it’s real and moving). Now the third has been a tool that I never anticipated would be at the top of my tool box in pregnancy, and fingers crossed birth. It’s called Hypnobirthing.
Now get the vision of crystals, dreadlocks and crosslegged hippies out of your head (clearly the vision that my partner had of Hypnobirthing in the beginning). As a woman, you have the physical and mental abilities to have a baby. We are made for this. It’s just somewhere along the line, we have been brain washed into thinking that child birth is a medical event, and the movies that we watch, the horror stories we are told by other women and the unnatural fear mongering that has been built surrounding birth is really ruining what is the MOST natural occurrence in life and what should be an enjoyable time in your life. It’s not just a baby that’s born, a mother is born too. Hypnobirthing helps you to understand your built in tools for birth. It teaches you the fundamentals to help you to use your natural abilities, and basically relax. Relax at a time when most other women are getting their ‘freak out’ on. Relax, relax, relax! Tapping into the part of your brain that controls the hormones that are your friends when you give birth is vital to this.
Goodbye adrenalin and hello oxytocin. It teaches you breathing techniques that are not only a fantastic tool in birth, but for a plethora of other life events. I used hypno-breathing and mindset the other day when I was having my flu shot, when I was asked to stand up in a meeting and be used as a guinea pig, when I was waiting to board a flight to Darwin (I HATE FLYING).
It’s been life changing. Anxiety be gone!
Saying this I haven’t even given birth yet and I might end up a screaming banshee. I’ll keep you posted.
Vital tools in your Second Trimester:
Hypnobirthing or Calm Birth – Do a course. It’s worth every penny. The MP3 tracks and books that come with the courses are the vitals that you will use every day in your pregnancy.
Rockstar Birth Radio podcasts – I listened to every single one of them (except the unexpected series – avoid these until after you give birth) Fantastic, real life, positive birth stories.
Keep moving – Yes, you start to ache and you’re tired. Your hips feel like your Nan’s and you start to walk like Mini Me. But just keep moving. It’s great for baby and great for you. Pump that oxytocin filled blood around that body. Start to open those hips up. Think stretchy thoughts.
Fun things to do in the Second Trimester:
Tell people you’ve forgotten which brand of pram you brought because IT DOESN’T MATTER. Watch the confusion sweep over their faces.
Stand as close as possible to well suited males sat in the pregnancy seat on the tram and glare at them until they move. Sometimes they don’t. In fact majority of the time they don’t.
Eat that piece of cake. Unless you’re an instagram pregnancy model who wants to continue giving the rest of the human race false hopes and visions, EAT THE CAKE.